most recent 30 from http://www.dearvesta.com 2010-07-30T19:12:38Z http://www.dearvesta.com/feeds/question/32 http://www.creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc/2.5/rdf http://www.dearvesta.com/questions/32/is-it-possible-to-maintain-a-new-relationship-with-someone-who-is-going-off-to-ba Mike 2009-12-26T21:22:31Z 2009-12-30T00:10:49Z

<p>So I met this girl a couple months ago, and we finally started dating the first week in December. Things were going really well with her, but just before we started going out she signed up for the National Guard. We discussed that a couple weeks ago, and she thought there would be a few months until she actually went off to Basic so we were going to see where things headed in the meantime. Then she got the paperwork, and it turns out she's leaving in 2 weeks. </p> <p>I know some people can make long distance relationships work, but this is still a pretty new relationship. Is it possible to still grow a new relationship long distance? </p> <p>And does anyone have experience with the Guard? Will she even have time to talk to me during basic? I can't imagine she gets to bring her cell phone... do they get computer access or anything so we could chat at night? Even going to visit is going to be expensive... I'm on the opposite side of the country from her base (Arizona, but I don't know the exact city yet) and ticket prices seem to range from $250-$400. </p> <p>EDIT: Just got great news! She's been bumped back for another couple months, so we'll probably be in a better position to judge things by then! May still need the advice on handling long distance relationships though... or at least this could be helpful for others. :)</p>

http://www.dearvesta.com/questions/32/is-it-possible-to-maintain-a-new-relationship-with-someone-who-is-going-off-to-ba/34#34 thursdaysgeek 2009-12-29T05:03:06Z 2009-12-29T05:03:06Z

<p>I know it's old fashioned, but try sending her letters. Just tell about your day, what is going on in your life, and send at least one or two a week, perhaps nearly one a day. It won't be that expensive, and somehow, that paper is a more permanent way of communicating than talking or electronic methods. Call her too, if she can take the calls.</p> <p>This can be good -- it can be a way to develop a deep friendship without the physical aspect blowing away your perspective. A relationship won't last without that friendship, anyway. </p>