most recent 30 from http://www.dearvesta.com 2010-09-09T20:25:09Z http://www.dearvesta.com/feeds/user/31 http://www.creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc/2.5/rdf http://www.dearvesta.com/questions/21/how-can-we-deal-with-troublesome-neighbors/54#54 r.usa 2010-03-07T06:12:45Z 2010-03-07T06:12:45Z

<p>You can try to move, implement sound reinforcements, ignore them, take legal action, etc.</p> <p>But what you DON'T want to do is let it get to you. Some of my aquantances also have terrible nasty neighbors and they lost their patience and are now in a long and agonizing law procedures with he-said-she said, court ordered classes, and restraining orders. Don't let that be you!</p>

http://www.dearvesta.com/questions/33/long-gone/53#53 r.usa 2010-03-07T06:08:08Z 2010-03-07T06:08:08Z

<p>It is normal to feel attached, but you might want to make sure your attachments are in check. That is, make sure you can still eat, work, and breathe when he is not around. = P</p> <p>As JB King suggests, discuss how you two will communicate while he is away. There are many options such as postal mail, telephone, email, IM, and webcam.</p> <p>Lastly, you can get through it! Try to stay positive and let your man do what he needs to do, he will be back in your arms in no time. You can view it as a trial in your relationship. Take each day day-by-day. You will need something to help ease the feeling of emptyness with the timeslot that you spent with him - pick up some new hobbies, find something new to do. Perhaps a new video game, books, write a story, draw pictures, sewing, model building, summer courses/activities, jogging, walking, swimming...</p>

http://www.dearvesta.com/questions/39/my-boyfriend-wont-show-affection/51#51 r.usa 2010-03-07T05:46:34Z 2010-03-07T05:46:34Z

<ul> <li><strong>Perhaps he is showing you love in a way you don't recognize</strong></li> </ul> <p>He does not show you any affection at all? Sometimes men and women have different ways of showing love. Here are the five universal "love languages":</p> <ul> <li>Verbally kind/adoring/loving words</li> <li>Spending quality time with you</li> <li>Gifts</li> <li>Doing things for you (your laundry, fixing the house, washing your car, etc)</li> <li>Physical touch</li> </ul> <p>Are you sure he does not show you any affection in one of these ways? </p> <p>It does sound like a communication issue, try to have a gentle, non-agressive discussion, as JB King suggests.</p> <ul> <li><strong>Perhaps he "won" the game</strong></li> </ul> <p>Another possibility, very sad, yet sometimes true, is that men can sometimes be challenge, or goal oriented. Once that goal is met, like a video game when you beat it, he can become bored. If this is the case, I don't know what to tell you except that he is very shallow for only valuing you as a challenge, a new mountain to climb and conquer. </p>

http://www.dearvesta.com/questions/36/questions-about-life/50#50 r.usa 2010-03-07T05:33:31Z 2010-03-07T05:33:31Z

<p>This is a stage of life that most everyone goes through.</p> <p>No one can answer who you are and what you were made to do better than yourself.</p> <ul> <li><strong>Figure out who you are</strong></li> </ul> <p>Look at your horiscope and zodiac signs, what do they say about you (with a grain of salt), are they true? Take personality tests like the Myers-Briggs, it is well worth the effort. Take all of these things into account and figure out what are your weaknesses, strengths, what do you need, love, crave, what do you hate, etc, etc. </p> <ul> <li><strong>And then use it to your advantage</strong></li> </ul> <p>Once you have figured out who you are and how you function, you can use that information to help you manipulate yourself for a better lifestyle - for example, how to motivate yourself, how to keep a better budget, how to stay on track with a diet, how to be better disciplined, etc, etc.</p> <ul> <li><strong>Figure out what you like to do</strong></li> </ul> <p>There is one more crucial work step, you need to figure out what you like to do. A good place to start is (skill or job) aptitude tests. Think about the courses you took and jobs you had, what did you like, what didn't you like, and <strong>why</strong>. Is there anything where you felt "Oh yeah, I was so MADE to do this!" ?</p> <ul> <li><strong>Figure out what you would like to do with yourself</strong></li> </ul> <p>Now, a disclaimer here, I do not believe that there is exactly one predestination in a person's life. That is, I don't believe that a person must find the exact right job, vehicle, spouse, pet, ... and then live happily ever after with no work/labor involved. No, instead I believe that a person can choose those things, and that there are some choices that are good, some that are bad, but there is no "perfect happily ever after choice".</p> <p>With that in mind, I think that you should sit down and take a look at your life. Are you satisfied with what you have been doing? Do you feel content and happy with your life? I believe that you have the power to do just about anything that you want to do with your life (well, except maybe rule the Earth). While thinking about what you like to do and are good at doing from the previous, start to formulate a plan to do those things. Do you need to switch jobs? Go to college? </p> <p>Life is much too short to be terribly miserable. You have the power to change it, and attain your goals.</p>

http://www.dearvesta.com/questions/29/want-to-help-myself-but-not-sure-which-way-to-turn/30#30 r.usa 2010-03-07T06:15:34Z 2010-03-07T06:15:34Z

In addition to artistic abilities, are there other services you can provide to earn some extra income? Can you do maid's work? Babysit children? Tutoring? Cooking? I see you have a computer - are there any work-at-home job opportunities that you can find?