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I have recently moved into a townhouse. It is lovely except for my next door neighbors. They are a pair of lawyers who are savvy about staying within the letter of the law and pushing the townhouse association’s rules. They have annoying behaviors such as claiming unassigned parking spaces in such a way that puts the rest of us at a disadvantage. They drive their motorcycles off their patios, filling our homes with exhaust and noise, and leave on bright floodlights for nights on end, which lights up my window and is annoying.

The other neighbors have adjusted to this pair’s limit bending. I seem to be the neighbor most affected by their behaviors. Is there anything I can do? I'm about ready to lose my mind, it just isn’t fair.

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thursdaysgeek · Answer 1 · 2009-11-13 04:16:50Z UTC

It isn't fair, and if they are truly nasty people, talking to them won't help. But if you lower yourself to their level, fight fire with fire, it will be worse. If you are renting, perhaps you could talk to the management, and asked to be moved to a different apartment. Tell them why, but in a non-confrontive, factual way. If they bother enough people, eventually the management MIGHT deal with them. But, if you can move, at least they won't be annoying you quite as much.

r.usa · Answer 2 · 2010-03-07 06:12:45Z UTC

You can try to move, implement sound reinforcements, ignore them, take legal action, etc.

But what you DON'T want to do is let it get to you. Some of my aquantances also have terrible nasty neighbors and they lost their patience and are now in a long and agonizing law procedures with he-said-she said, court ordered classes, and restraining orders. Don't let that be you!

How can we deal with troublesome neighbors?

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